Recently I had a drink with my ex-husband. I was on vacation with friends and he’s in between jobs. I was visiting near his transitional home. If someone had looked into a crystal ball and predicted this, I would have suggested that they look again because it wasn’t me in the picture, for sure!
Back in the early years, I had no desire to meet him for anything, breakfast, tea, snacks, coffee, wine, cheese, or after dinner drinks. Our marriage didn’t end amicably and the process of divorce shredded any sense of… [Read more…]
Beautiful!!!!!!!!!
Thanks! It’s been quite a journey!
Thanks! It’s been quite a journey with lots of bumps along the way.
and the beat travels on…Wonderful to read,and process.You my friend, are a special person with a real heart that lives in the moment..
it makes life happen in a magical way ….
I went through DivorceCare and in one of the lessons that startling suggestion of being friends with my ex-husband was, well…startling. I’m not there yet. The divorce is fresh. I’m selfishly (and rightfully so) getting my healing first. I do have compassion for him and have forgiven him and choose to forgive him as hurtful memories spontaneously pop into my mind. Grieving the loss of your support – that would have never been a thought to cross my mind. Thanks for the article.
The grieving and forgiveness process took place over a decade. I’m in full agreement about forgiveness being discussed early in the divorce journey. Early on, I think it serves to make us feel guilty that we can’t forgive or don’t want to forgive. Taking care of one’s self is most important and in time, the forgiveness may come. Some never forgive and go on to lead happy, fulfilled lives. You don’t have to forgive to move on, but forgiveness can serve as a blanket to wrap around yourself.