This blog post was published by Familyaffaires.com.
Just discovered your spouse is having an affair? Now what?
Recently I read an informative blog post by Dr. Anne Malec on goodtherapy.org titled, “An Affair is not the Beginning of the End”. The blog tackles the emotions that overcome a spouse when an affair is discovered. The emotions range from sadness to rage to denial to a physical reaction to acceptance. Dr. Malec suggests that a marriage can be saved and it may be the opportunity your union needs to make the changes necessary to re-commit to one another.did.
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Great advice!
In my experience, the work that can happen in counseling can heal both partners – the one who stepped out of his/her commitment in order to fulfill something (and that can be many rationalizations or a total disregard from the partner), as well as the deeply wounded partner. Betrayal is ugly on all counts. And, the repair can be a gift to not only enliven the relationship but to make it more intimate on many levels because of each getting healthy and learning how to ask for what they need in a way that they are heard. (This last piece is what is really important. People ask, but not in ways that penetrate their partners as something important to them.
You do good work!
Paula
Great post Sheila! Thanks for sharing you ideas, thoughts, and resources!